Questions, Questions, Questions!
Asking questions is the ultimate tool to making people like you. At every opportunity ask a question. If someone tells you something that has happened to them that day, ask them questions about it. Not just one question, keep on going until they run out of things to say. The reasons for doing this I have already mentioned – a. people like to talk about themselves and b. they feel valued when properly listened too!
I know this sounds really simple, but it genuinely makes a huge difference. Without wanting to patronise, here’s an example conversation.
Me: “Hey Dave, how’s things?”
Dave: “Oh not too bad James - thanks for asking. Jenny is in bed feeling a bit ill, but she’ll be fine.”
Me: “Jenny not feeling too well?”
Dave: “Oh she’s ok, just a bit of a cold I think. Went out for a nice walk yesterday but it was flipping cold.”
Me: “You go anywhere nice?”
Dave: “Yeah, we went to the beach. It was really nice to spend a bit of time together walking the dog.”
Me: “Yeah, absolutely. Well I hope Jenny feels better soon.”
Dave: “Thanks James, I’m sure she will. See you soon mate.”
As you can see from the example conversation, I only asked questions, nothing else – yet Dave would have felt very valued and pleased that someone actually took the time to ask about Jenny etc. It really is that simple. Asking loads of questions is a great way to being liked.
Simple! On to Step 4!
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